What is Self-Sabotage?
What’s holding you back from living the life you want? Is it lack of ambition or perhaps you procrastinate? Heck, maybe it’s not that important to you. Whatever your answer is — I can bet it’s a form of self-sabotage. In all honesty, these are the questions I continuously ask myself when I’m not doing what I need to be doing. I basically channel my inner chola and check myself (that B is scary.) I know there have been numerous times that I prevented myself from growing in my career, because I didn’t feel ready or I was too comfortable. Here are some ways you might be self-sabotaging:
- You procrastinate: If you were consistent and did what you needed to do on a daily basis you would be closer to reaching your goals. And even with knowing this statement to be fact, you still make excuses to justify putting something off. I am here to remind you that every time you procrastinate, you’re delaying your blessings. That project you keep putting off, could be the one that lands you your dream job — just do it. Do what you need to do. No excuses.
- Self-doubt is a mutha: We all experience those moments when we question whether we’re qualified to do something or if we’re even worthy of receiving what we dreamed of. The answer is always ‘fuck yes, you are!’ You deserve to live your best life. You are worthy of receiving everything you’ve ever wanted. I think now more than ever, because of our little friend “social media,” we need to practice self-love. It’s important to absolutely love and embrace who you are. You are enough — whether other people are able to see it or not. The best love you will ever experience is self-love, as cliché as that sounds.
- You’re comfy: If you’re anything like me, then change can sometimes give you anxiety. I always say I want change, but as soon as I am experiencing something out of my routine; I panic. I’m still learning how to deal with it and embrace change. Remember the greatest things happen outside of your comfort zone. It’s a daunting task to have to push yourself (sometimes literally) out of your safe place and oftentimes we opt to stay there, but just because you feel “safe” doesn’t mean it makes you happy. So do you want to be “safe” or do you want to be happy?
- Fear of success: It sounds crazy because we all work so hard to reach our definition of success, but it’s a real thing. Oftentimes we fear success for different reasons — perhaps we’re afraid of how our family will perceive us (especially if they have negative thoughts on wealthy/successful people). I feared success, because I thought it meant that I wouldn’t be able to spend as much time with the people I love. I had to really break it down and prove to myself that those beliefs were just not true. Being successful would give me the freedom to spend even more time with them and enjoy new experiences. Maybe you’re afraid you won’t be able to handle success, so you end up sabotaging yourself before you even get there. It makes no sense. You’ll cross that bridge when you get there, just like every other obstacle in life.5. You’re holding back: If you’re going to do something, really DO it. When you don’t allow yourself to give it your all, you’re only playing yourself. Decide if this is what you really want and if it isn’t that’s fine, but if it is — GO ALL IN.
Are you self-sabotaging? The world needs your talents, stop depriving us. Go be amazing!
Thank you for reading <3 Love, Jocelyn
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