What’s holding you back? Is it lack of knowledge? Fear? Laziness? If you’re ready to take that step forward in life and start becoming the person you were destined to be, then you need to analyze yourself and see what beliefs/traits could be holding you back. Below are a few things that may be hindering your progress.
You don’t know any better: When we don’t know better, how are we expected to do better? Now, this doesn’t mean you can use the fact that you don’t know better as a crutch, because NO. There are an infinite amount of resources readily available to us at our fingertips, literally. If you want to do something — research it, ask someone in that field, read books, listen to interviews, etc. If you truly want to be knowledgable, you have to do the work.
You don’t think you’re worthy/Limiting beliefs: I strongly believe the biggest issue we face is not believing we are capable or worthy of being successful. These limiting beliefs are formed by our experiences/environment, and can be detrimental if you don’t acknowledge and change them.
It’s doesn’t seem realistic: First, let me remind you that only you can determine what realistic is. If Thomas Edison thought, “You know what… this light bulb idea isn’t realistic I should just give up.” We would all still be lighting candles and not just for sexy time. Just because your vision isn’t common or maybe it’s never been done before — doesn’t mean you’re incapable of doing it. Why not you? It should be you. You have everything in you to do it. Remember, you determine what realistic is for you — what others deem realistic is none of your business. If that isn’t enough, Nelson Mandela said “It always seems impossible until it’s done.”
Worried about what people will think: You’re afraid of looking dumb to your friends/family/social media, etc. You can’t live your life afraid of what others will think of you. This is your life and we only have one chance to live it. My biggest fear is being in my 60’s and having regrets for not doing what made me happy, because I was afraid of what people would think of me. People that judge you are unhappy and clearly have issues of their own.
You’re afraid of failure: But what if it doesn’t go my way? Here’s a reality check — it probably won’t go your way, it’s going to go God’s way and his way is even better. If one method doesn’t work, you don’t change the goal, you try another method. Rinse & repeat. Every successful person has failed a ridiculous amount of times, but that never stops them from trying. Come to terms with the fact that failing is just part of the journey. What helps me cope with failing or getting told “no” is knowing that okay, this wasn’t for me, but that just means I’m one step closer to finding my “yes,” and when I do it’s going to be even more delicious.
You’re waiting for the right time: When I finish school I’ll start. When I have more money. When I have more experience. When I have more followers. Does that sound familiar? Well if it does, I am here to tell you that there will never, ever (ever, ever *André 3000 voice*) be a right time. I’ve learned that the hard way and when I think I’m ready it’s actually too late. Start today — it doesn’t have to be a huge step, it can be reaching out for advice or implementing a new strategy. *You can do it put some action into it!*
You’re lazy/inconsistent: You have to be willing to give it your all, even on the days when you don’t feel like it. Being inconsistent, in any aspect of your life, is no bueno. Do something full force or not at all, because doing so you’re only going to get half-assed results and we definitely want the full ass.
You don’t have faith: Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. said it best “Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.” There’s a reason why faith is mentioned hundreds of times in the bible, because you have to have faith in your vision, yourself and most importantly, in God. Have faith that things are unfolding in your favor and for your greater good.
Fear of success: You’re more of afraid of actually being successful than you are of failure. Next week’s newsletter is all about this topic, so please stay tuned.
Do any of these resonate with you? What do you think is holding you back?
Thank you for reading! Love, Jocelyn <3