*Previously posted in 2017*
If there’s something right now that’s making you unhappy — stop doing it. If you're in a relationship that’s making you unhappy — leave it. If your job is making you unhappy — change it. I know it sounds it’s easier said than done but you the goal is to actively do things that will help you change the things you're not happy with. Here are three things I had to let go and how I did it:
Unhealthy Friendships: They say you are who you surround yourself with, and if that alone doesn’t make you want to change who you keep around, then we have bigger issues. If you want to be wealthy, you can’t surround yourself with people that are always complaining about being broke. If you want to be positive, then ditch the negative Nancys. We get so emotionally consumed by other people’s problems, without even knowing it. We have enough things to be stressed about in our own lives, so why carry other peoples’ burdens? I learned energy is everything, so be mindful of the energy you allow into your life. I only dedicate time to people with great energies — the dreamers, doers and those that have a limitless way of thinking. Doing this doesn’t make me a bad person, it makes me a conscious person —conscious of who I share my energy with. Your energy is extremely precious, protect it.
Job: At my past job (the school), I use to literally get sick every other week, no exaggeration. I’m not sure if it was because the building was so old or because I hated being there so much. I had a “good” job by society’s standards, but it made me so miserable. I hated being tied to a schedule and dealing with rude people. There was a certain moment when I knew I could no longer do that to myself — I had to let go. It took so much faith to do it, but I knew I had no other option. I quit without having a solid plan, and I’m not saying to quit your job tomorrow, but explore your options. I thank God that a week after quitting, I got hired at SKEE TV — that ended up being one of the best experiences of my life, thus far.
Saying YES: When people would ask me for favors I would always say ‘yes’ — I didn’t want to let anyone down. Ultimately that led to me being unhappy because I was always putting other's needs before my own. I learned to say ‘no’ to things without an explanation. I read this somewhere — “NO is a complete sentence,” and it’s so incredibly true. We always feel like we need to explain ourselves, but unless it’s your mommy, then you don’t owe anyone an explanation.
Below are some questions to ask yourself. Write it down, analyze and take action!
- What area are you having a tough time letting go?
- Why are you having a tough time letting go?
- What steps are you taking in order to let it go?
- What is the outcome once you let go?